Parenting in Islam (part 2 of 2)
- To know that good parenting begins before pregnancy.
- To know that the responsibility of good parenting falls on both parents.
- The importance of giving good names to children.
- Sunnah – The word Sunnah has several meanings depending on the area of study however the meaning is generally accepted to be, whatever was reported that the Prophet said, did, or approved.
- Du’a – supplication, prayer, asking Allah for something.
Find Good Company
Having good friends is imperative in building a strong family. The Prophet, may the mercy and blessings of Allah be upon him, said
This is true for both parents and children. Children are easily influenced by those who surround them; if the parents keep good company, it will encourage the children to do likewise. In the West, this is absolutely imperative, as one’s friends may be very anti-Islamic in their ideology and behaviour, so it should be clear to the parents that keeping good company and avoiding bad company will help their children in distinguishing between what is permissible from what is not. It will help children understand that though there are those who drink alcohol or do unlawful things, these are not good things to do and there are lawful alternatives.
Parents should be active in choosing the best companions and friends for their children. If the children wants to bring their friends home, it would be wise to allow this, so that the parents can see who they are and become actively involved with their children.
Don’t Forget the Little Things
Every stage of growth children go through should be monitored closely by the parents; they should teach them the necessary skills as they progress. For example, when children are younger, the proper etiquette and mannerisms should be instilled in their children. Later on, they can be taught the reason they should behave in a certain manner. Stories told at this stage are rarely forgotten.
A child should also be urged to memorize the dua and the Qur’an. If they are brought up with these ‘little things’, they will surely be able to progress forward in their lives in a most wholesome manner.